And that’s what the real life is: Adversity
Our generation (Orkut-smartphone-Facebook-snapchat generation) has seldom seen real adversity. Yes we have had our problems, but not really adversities which grow the required patience to lead a happy life in us. That’s why we are constantly tensed and stressed about everything. It has become a norm for a 20 something person to have too many complications. Simplicity has been long lost in us. Simple things no more please us, but the fact that we are fighting all our challenges in our life does. This leads us to the point where we start exaggerating challenges, even when we don’t have any, just to maintain our confidence of winning over life’s challenges. Is it so difficult to keep confidence in ourselves? Well, yes, atleast it seems so.
Instead of seeing the positives of people around us and getting motivated, we start comparing why is his/her life so simple and mine so difficult. This might also be partly because of the social media culture where everybody’s life seems damn perfect and you see yours as a pot of shit! Next, to suffice our false confidence we indulge in satisfying our ego by indulging in petty fights (arguments in the form of comments on social media posts) and start blaming things on everything else, but our selves. We try to come up by putting down others and feel accomplished by that!
What harm this does anyway? I shall tell you. What such an attitude does is it completely shifts the focus of our life from “ME” to every other possible thing on this earth. When you start blaming every possible uncertainty in your life for your thoughts, then negativity sets in even without your knowledge. The negativity in you seems justified to you because you feel life has been too unfair to you, in spite of you being the most correct person in the whole world. Satisfaction is something not many of us have experienced in real sense. The satisfaction of being selfless is no more a great quality! We prefer buying a new iphone rather than helping anyone selflessly. We believe these things make us happy. The only difference is that the materialistic things give us happiness which is temporary, but the feeling of genuinely being selfless creates long term satisfaction and peace in us. When the feelings of dissatisfaction are so high, we do not get motivated by anything either, as the weight of our complications clouds our minds sufficiently.
This makes you to stop evaluating yourself. When you stop that evaluation, you make an end to your improvement. This is one of worst form of false cloud that one can have! The lesson we need to imbibe right now is to start that process of improving ourselves. The need for knowing yourself first has never been so much as it is now. A clever person knows every inch of himself first before judging/commenting on others. He is constantly exploring his weakness and strength and looking for ways of improvement, every day.
So my dearest friends let us say this loud and clear – “I and only I am responsible for my life”. Let us not indulge in all those petty fights which satisfy our false egos and shift the focus on the most important person in our life, ME. Those long postponed goals of learning a new sport/hobby, crash courses, some interesting study programs, preparation for a career exam, weight loss programs, spending time with family friends, and so many more – let us get all our focus on them, from TODAY.
Whenever fate gives you a chance to do something and prove yourself, it gives you only a few days’ time for the preparation. It asks for every drop of perspiration as the cost, but you should know that you will definitely reap the benefits later.
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