10 Unsolicited Advice to Girls with Brown Skin and Black Hair
Unsolicited advice to girls with brown skin and black hair:
1. Make it a point to go on a solo trip once in your lifetime. The place doesn’t matter nor does the distance. It can be thousand miles aways or ten miles away. All that matters is that you will be alone with your thoughts and that by the end of trip you’ll feel liberated even if it went wrong right from the start.
2. If the tall boy with delicious brown skin and wavy hair proclaims that he doesn’t really want to rave about you to his friends take a deep breath, look him in the eye and say, “I refuse to be your secret.” Always remember that you deserve to be shown off.
3. Put your needs, your priorities before anyone else’s. If anyone calls you selfish for doing so don’t pay heed to it because that person is putting HIS need of getting something from you before your needs. If this is not hypocrisy I don’t know what is.
4. Speak your opinions loud and clear. So you think that John Green should have written An Imperial Affliction rather The Fault In Our Stars? Say so. You think Bukowski sometimes acts desperate and overtly cynical? Shout it. Your opinion deserves to be heard.
5. You are not obligated to laugh at rape jokes. It’s okay for you to say that they make you uncomfortable and that not everything is funny.
A lot of serious topics are hidden under the cloak of humour and it’s not supposed to be like that.
6. Just because a lecherous man was looking at your clevage when you wore that low neck top doesn’t mean that you should stop wearing it because it’s not your fault. Never think that it’s your fault.
7. You want to be sad. Be sad. You want to bawl. Bawl.
But it’s been three days and you can’t stop ? Don’t worry, do it until you don’t have the need to.
8. If someone tells you to stop being sad because it’s making them uncomfortable say no even if that someone is a person whom you love with all your heart.
9. It’s not your fault that people chose to look at your body and not your soul. Maybe you were molested, maybe you were bullied because of your weight or maybe someone eve teased you. It’s not your fault that people chose to look at your body and not your soul.
10. Just because you made it through depression without help this time doesn’t mean that the next time you can as well. Everyone requires help. Be brave and ask for it the next time.